The idea of thinking of someone else during sex could seem the height of disloyalty. It is – in fact …
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What our Wedding Vows should Say
Some of the trouble of long-term relationships comes from the vows we say at the beginning. We should learn to …
Why it Probably Wasn’t Better Being Single
We have a very unhelpful tendency – when in relationships – to idealise what it was like being single. We …
In Defence Of ‘Needy’ People
We’re used to being very down on so-called ‘needy’ people. But perhaps – in many situations – the problem doesn’t …
The Poignancy of Old Pornography
There’s something especially poignant about pornography in which all the participants are long dead. We explore the history of 19th …
Why Love Is Never As Nice As It Should Be
Our relationships are often not quite as warm and perfect as they should be. That’s perhaps because we’re comparing them …
Can Lying ever be Kind?
Paradoxically, but also rather troublingly, there are certain lies that preserve the underlying truth about our feelings somewhat more effectively …
Why You Still Have Time To Change Career
We often feel as if we might have run out of time to change career. That’s because we usually have …