8 Signs You’re Not “Nice”, But A People Pleaser


Being nice has to do with how we treat other people. But what about how we treat ourselves? What if the “niceness” we show to others actually comes at the expense of our own happiness and well-being? Here are a few tell-tale signs that what you’re actually struggling with isn’t being “too nice” but being too much of a people pleaser.

Are you too nice for your own good? If so, you may relate to this video: https://youtu.be/9lw4M4q2NFw

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera www.youtube.com/amandasilvera
Animator: Cristina
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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