People have lost their basic humanity and live a lot of their life like a child or a sugar addict.
Because they can’t sit still or tolerate any boredom or lack of stimulation.
Through these mediums they are conditioned to constant stimulation and validation and this carries over to love and relationships, which is a recipe for disaster.
All these things taken together really create an inflated, distorted, exaggerated, and quite profoundly confused sense of self.
The more wide spread this becomes the worse off people feel and the less they are able to genuinely have basic relationships.
People think knowing themselves more, doing more of “the work” will be the solution but the reality is that they only find more work to do and keep running on the hamster wheel.
Mostly people are just rearranging the furniture on the titanic.It’s like saying you’re stuffed, your stomach is full, so the solution is to eat more food.
We have more information now then ever, but generally no maturity, wisdom, or genuine insight. My prediction for modern dating is that people will become more and more divided and sub divided into more niche niches as they go deeper and deeper into a prison of self absorption and delusional “self improvement” as they lose more touch with actual reality.
Birth rates will decline, fertility decline, marriage decline, and in general the family structure will likely become a thing of the past as broken homes will be the new normal.
Therapy
-often times validate any and every feeling and interpretation a person has
-provides a ton of ammunition of feeling like a victim
-always comes up with new pathologies and sources of “trauma”
-gives people a way to feel superior to others and always have the upper hand because of the assumed superiority of doing “the work”
-anyone who doesn’t agree with you or go along with you is a narcissist or stuck in their shadow
Self help
-tells people they deserve so much from life and people, with out telling the harsh reality that they need to contribute and add value relative to whatever it is they think they deserve
-tells people life should be for their highest good, deepest pleasure, and most authentic self, which is a perfect recipe for being miserable and always feeling not good enough
-feeds neurosis by dividing, sub dividing, categorizing, and recategorizing a person into mental, emotional, spiritual, psychological, mental, inner child, shadow, light, authentic self, higher self, etc
Social media
-exponentially perpetuates and incubates the negative traits listed before
-gives people attention and validation with out any investment or commitment
-allows a person to curate a version of themselves that is often times far removed from reality
Dating apps
-gives people attention and validation with out any investment or commitment
-allows a person to curate a version of themselves that is often times far removed from reality
-creates the illusion of choice, which inflates an already shaky sense of self
